If your partner has any inkling of being submissive, but you’re too clumsy to take control of the whip and call him names, you might not really like it if he tells you that he wants to be surprised next time.
Surprising people is already difficult when buying people Christmas gifts, so how much more could it get when it comes to sex? Especially given the fact that female domination antics in bed can at times result to disappointment and even dangerous outcomes, wanting to surprise your man with some female domination action and hitting the right buttons has little chance of success.
It is not impossible, however. Contrary to what many people believe, you can make yourself absolutely great in amateur femdom, just as long as you know how to do it. So, here are some tips in how you can get train yourself to be an amateur femdom artist in bed.
• Get yourself oriented with female domination by watching some femdom porn either alone or with your man, although it’s much better if you can watch alone since you don’t want to spoil the surprise. You can download videos for your future reference, as well. Enough exposure to femdom porn will can give you some ideas you might want to include in your surprise.
• To dominate through humiliation, you can make your man take his pants off in public places. You’ll find that this is very common in amateur femdom erotica or in the femdom porn you watch. What usually happens is that men order women to take off their pants, revealing a skirt that will allow them to touch their women from under the table. You can either do this by switching roles, or you can make him unzip his fly as part of the act. This will work as a surprise if you just suddenly bring this up after some hot talking. You can take a lot of inspiration from porn videos which you can download online.
• To dominate during sex, you can use belts to beat your man as you order him to do things to you. You can also make him sit on a chair while wearing a buttplug, get on top of him and get it going from there. The buttplug will make him want to ejaculate faster, so the harder you tug, the more he’d want it.
• To dominate with pain, you can start with something basic like slapping his buttocks, then you can move on to squeezing his balls. Again, you see this in a lot of videos available for download, so you will know that it’s basic. However, you should be careful with ball squeezing since it can cause him pain he won’t find sexy.
Being the boss in bed can be a fantastic surprise to your partner if he is up to it. Plan what you will do well and have a great time with your partner.